Wednesday, 31 October 2018

Do You Need To Unfollow Someone For Your Happiness?



There is a lot of negativity online and unfortunately nearly everyone is online these days even the bullies, trolls and awful people you have encountered in real life. There are people online who's accounts you look at, compare yourself to and then feel generally shitty about yourself for the rest of the day. It's easy to say "don't compare yourself'' to them you are who you are but sometimes you just can't help it.  

Scrolling through your instagram and your brain is like "I should eat healthy like that", "Why don't I look like that?" or "That person used to bully me". It's hard as people get older they must realise some of their mistakes as children but when someone who made your school life horrid follows you, do you follow back? I did, I felt obliged too. I felt like I didn't have a choice. 

What I now realise is I don't need to follow someone just because I know them, like your friends sisters dog's instagram account, why? It is just not needed. Your accounts, whether that be instagram, twitter or Facebook is your own online space and you shouldn't feel bad or not want to see certain people on your feed. You shouldn't have to feel like you should follow them because they followed you. 

When I changed my way of thinking I enjoy scrolling through my feed and instagram stories knowing those names and faces that bring bad memories and feelings won't pop up. 


Another thing is all the health/fitness accounts, follow them if they motivate you as they should but don't follow them if they just make you feel bad about yourself. You need to look after yourself and your happiness. You will get there, it just takes time. Sometimes the accounts online aren't really how their life is and you need to realise that difference. Instagram Vs Reality is a common saying for a reason. One of the most toxic accounts are the ones you follow out of curiosity in what they are doing or to talk about it with your friends is just not needed. There is no need to follow someone to not engage with them or be nice. As the wonderful Thumper said on Bambi 'If you have nothing nice to say, don't say nothing at all'. Same for following, follow accounts you will enjoy and engage with.


I don't feel like I need to put this but it is a big part of our community which is a shame. DO NOT FOLLOW SOMEONE THEN UNFOLLOW IF THEY DON'T FOLLOW BACK. I easily get about 20+ followers a week but in the last 2 months my followers have gone up by about 30 followers overall. It is pointless and people can tell when you do it. The follow/unfollow game is very frowned upon and it really annoys me.

Have you had any experience with this? Do you find yourself in those love to hate follow situations? Let me know in the comments below.


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  1. I do follow loads of new people every few weeks depending on what subject I’m interested in. But I don’t expect people to follow back for the sake of it, I just love variety in my insta feed. I unfollow only if I find the I either don’t enjoy their feed, or it offends me in some way. I agree it’s unhealth to follow people just because you don’t want to offend, or because you feel you should. But I love the saying of “if you can’t say anything nice...”

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    1. Yeah people should never follow for the sake of it, you're right it is unhealthy x

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  2. Oh I find this all the time! Whether it be related to blogging or personal life. I'm very private on certain things and accounts, especially my Facebook and private Instagram pages. I hate the pages that follow and unfollow, I mean what is the point?!

    https://theremightbecoffee.wordpress.com/

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    1. Yeah I am private on my Facebook due to my baby and stuff. Yeah there is no point!

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  3. See this is what I’m currently doing, I’ve been going through all the accounts I follow and unfollowing ones that make me feel this way! And it’s hoenstly helping! I’ve still got a fair few to go through but it’s honestly the best thing when your online a lot!

    Isobel x

    www.fashionistachic14.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Awh I am glad it is helping I think everyone should do it! x

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  4. I only follow people I feel like to and I don't follow back if I am not interested in that person account. I don't feel bad about it . Lately I unfollow a lovely lady that I have nothing against but she is a car fanatic and I really had enough seeing picture of her car on my feed.

    http://www.mariesconnections.com/2018/10/half-moon-marble-jewellery-haoppinessboutique-oxfordbloggers-costwold-banbury.html

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    1. Yeah that is exactly my point, I think people shouldn't be made to feel bad for unfollowing. x

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  5. I went through quite a purge recently because I realised that my feed wasn't making me happy anymore, and I was missing out on the posts that I cared about. And it felt so good!

    I've never done the whole follow-follow-back thing because I want to grow my following organically with people who actually want to read my posts.

    Lizzie Bee // Hello Lizzie Bee

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